Sunday, November 30, 2014

At Pleasant Grove Baptist



Although visiting in Gee’s Bend is quite church like, I always want to attend Sunday service. This year I carry Sammy to Pleasant Grove Missionary Baptist Church; it’s the church where Martin Luther King, Jr spoke, and Mary Ann Pettway is in the choir. We drive up to the brick building as Sunday School is ending, a bit early for the main event, so we sit in the quiet comfort of the rental car’s AC, looking. A very large woman in a white suit carrying a massive watermelon greets a second large lady, putting the melon in the gleaming trunk of a big white car.
 It happens to be Homecoming on this particular Sunday, and we are there for close to four hours. The sermon itself is over an hour, with the pastor singing half of it. He talks about evil, he speaks of gratitude. The congregation responds. The choir belts out lovely punctuation. There are two collection events. The deacons speak. We are called on to speak, we are welcomed to the church. We watch squirmy children, teenaged boys elbowing each other, shirts pressed, tucked into pants that hang low. Finally it is over and we are invited to lunch in the fellowship hall. Women with aprons covering church clothes stand over large stainless steel trays filled with mac and cheese, greens, fried chicken. They spoon dollops onto Styrofoam plates. The room has a baptismal pool; it is painted aqua and has a painting of Jesus on the wall that was done by a member of the church. I am sad that no one has come forward on this day wishing to be baptized.

Mary Lee Bendolph



Mary Lee Bendolph: so positive! Filled with gratitude and sweet frankness. She has good and bad days; I think she had a stroke several years ago, and she talks often about how her mind is not right and some activities really hurt her head. Arranging images on her wall (in a quilt like fashion) is a favorite pastime; sometimes this wears her out. One day we call to visit and she’s not up for having us, another day we go and she is even able to show us her piecing method. Arranging, tearing, cutting. “We used what we had, mmmm hmmm.”
I am amazed at the frankness of her conversation. She speaks so freely of sex, pregnancy, fertility, marriage. As a young adolescent, just 13 years old, she was pregnant before she knew how one could get that way. Mary Lee was one of 17 children and thus her mama didn’t spend too much time explaining things to her. Just the command to “Be lovely.” Until one day her mama told her she had to stop going to school. And despite her successes at life, she’s still filled with regret over her lack of education.  
Visiting with Mary Lee is a lot like going to church. Conversation follows the rhythm of a sermon’s call and response; her monologues are regularly broken up with “yes lord”, “thanks the lord”, “mmmhmmm”, “alright”. She is full of grace and gratitude, laughing frequently, almost singing while she speaks. Then she will break into song; it is deliberate, lovely.